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Ten Tips for Dealing With Difficult People
- Maintain self-control
- Ask non-threatening questions
- Listen to the customer's reason for being difficult
- Acknowledge the problem
- Don't argue
- Offer to rectify the situation
- Continue to act professionally
- Analyze what caused the client's behavior
- Set limits on what you will tolerate
Managing Client Expectations
How to Manage Your Real Estate Clients’ Expectations, (Global Real Estate Licence, Mar. 14, 2017)
5 Big Communication Blunders to Stop Making, (REALTOR® Magazine, Dec. 19, 2016)
How To Set Expectations With Clients, (REALTOR® Magazine, Jan. 2016)
Managing Expectations Like a Pro, (James Archer, June 2015)
5 Questions Every Agent Should Ask a New Real Estate Client, (Placester, Dec. 18, 2012)
Handling Difficult Customers
7 Perfect Replies to (Politely) Shut Down Negative People, (The Muse, 2017)
Brokerage Reminder: Agents beware – 5 signs of a difficult client, (FirstTuesday Journal, May 20, 2015)
Listening v Hearing: How to Diffuse Angry Customers, (Business 2 Community, Sept. 16, 2014)
Why You Need a 'Calmer' at Home Inspections, (REALTOR® Magazine, March 2014)
Help Emotional Clients Keep Their Cool, (REALTOR® Magazine, Sept. 2008)
10 New Strategies for Stress Management, (Psychology Today, Jan. 19, 2017)
Coping with Stress at Work, (American Psychological Association, 2016)
Stress Management - Ways to Relieve Stress, (WebMD, Nov. 14, 2014)
13 Foods That Fight Stress, (Prevention Magazine, May 22, 2014)
15 Stress Management Techniques That Work Well … and Fast, (Be Brain Fit, n.d.)
How to Fire Your Difficult Customers
How to Fire Your Agent or Client, (The Balance, Feb. 28, 2017)
When is it OK to Let a Real Estate Client Go?, (Follow Up Boss, Mar. 28, 2016)
How to fire a client, (ActiveRain, Aug. 3, 2009)
How to Fire a Monster Client: The Steps, (Michael Hyatt, n.d.)
3 Painless Scripts to Free Yourself of Problem Clients, (Nick Reese, n.d.)
Code of Ethics and Arbitration Manual — National Association of REALTORS®
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eBooks & Other Resources
The following eBooks and digital audiobooks are available to NAR members:
151 Quick Ideas to Deal with Difficult People (Kindle, eBook)
The complete idiot's guide to coping with difficult people (Kindle, eBook)
Make Difficult People Disappear, (Kindle, eBook)
Working with difficult people (Kindle, eBook)
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